Family Drama

    So this week inn class we discussed family problems such as crisis.
When a crisis happens in a family it is determined by the family dynamics be changed due to an event or such.
    In class we discussed many things that could be considered a family crisis positive or negative, some of the events were
-Death of a parent
-Death of a child
-Lose of a job
-Natural disasters
-Birth of a child
-Marriage
-Divorce
-Incarceration
-Addiction
    While learning about what exactly a crisis was and how it affects family roles I started thinking of past crisis in my own family. When I was younger my family really went through a lot of struggles that could definitely be considered crisis. While I don't think ill get in to all of them the one that I can remember most vividly and that was the most traumatizing and biggest crisis was our house catching fire when I was 6 years old. I remember people thinking I did not understand what was going on but I very much did. I knew everything I had and ever knew was gone just completely gone. But being so young I just kind of went along with whatever was told to me but I remember my parents being absolutely terrified because they didn't know what would come next or really what to do I remember there being a lot of stress and tension and family roles constantly switching first my mom would take control and know what to do while my dad was gone and then my dad would take control when my mom just couldn't handle it anymore and all of this went on for a while until finally there was a balanced medium. Things have gotten back to normal physically wise for example we are all fine and go about our days like normal but the family dynamic have never really gone back to the way they once were because of the crisis that we went through that really shifted out family forever mostly for the better but it is still different due to a crisis   

Its the little things

    so this week in class we talked about marriage and problems that can occur and I think the biggest one or the one that stood out the most to me was infidelity. I never really realized that it can be the smallest thins that can lead to bigger more inappropriate things
    The thing that stuck with me most form the class discussions and reading was ways to prevent infidelity. First we defined fidelity as many things like trust, loyalty, and words like that and infidelity to me is a violation of those words.
    Like I said earlier  it is the little things that can lead to bigger things that I never really thought of before like when married never being alone with a member of the opposite sex, avoiding temptations on social media, and keeping thoughts clean.
    Another one that never occurred to me was not holding on to friendships with the opposite sex once married and this never really crossed my mind but I believe that this can really cause problems if you are more concerned about what your friends are doing rather then being with your spouse
    I really had my eyes opened to small things that can lead to big problems in marriage this week in class
    Rachel Escobar

Getting Ready

    So this week in class I was not to excited about the topics we would be discussing because it was all about getting ready for marriage and problems newly wedded couples face.
    But then we started talking about little things I never even began to ever consider like sharing a bed, and  personal space, 
    I know talking about bed sharing is a little weird but I never thought about it before everyone has different sleeping habits and little "bedtime rituals" and once you are married you are going to have to maybe change your ways and then put up with someone else's. I never really realized that the small stuff such as bed sharing can make a difference because what if you like a million pillows but your partner does as well you'll always be fighting over pillows, or if you like a million blankets and they don not one will always be uncomfortable, then there is the whole blanket hog issue so many things just that go along with something as simple as sharing a bed.
    Personal space is another one because I am the kind of person that needs to go off and do their own thing but what if your partner always wants to be around you or visa versa or you both always do your own thing and there is never any time together.
    There are so many things to consider when getting married and overlooking the small stuff can make things harder so I think it is important to talk about and understand each other before you jump into marriage and this weeks class really opened my eyes to this.