This week I class we learned all about dating and stuff along those lines
I think dating is great and a good way to get to know someone. Dating obviously leads to different things and in class we talked about the steps
1st dating-hanging out with someone getting to know them
2nd "courtship"-you've met other people and decide that you want to be exclusive whicheach other
3rd-engagement
4th-marriage
While talking about these steps In class someone brought up "DTR"
Which means "determine the relationship" and this is when two people in the relationship sit down and "talk" about where the relationship is going. This sparked a good discussion in class. Some people say there awkward some people say there necessary, and some say that there taken to seriously.
I personally think it is important but it needs to be done in the right way. I think it's important not to be rushed into or pressured into. I think it needs to be done casually and I know that might not always happen but I just personally think it needs to be done but in the right way.
Rachel Escobar
Friday, October 25, 2013
Sunday, October 20, 2013
Siblings
Siblings...what can I say
This week in class my teacher asked us kind of an interesting question "how would your house be different and your relationships with family members if you were the opposite gender?" at first I was like oh whatever but then when I thought about it, it really can make a big difference I don't think my relationship with my parents would change that much but I think the dynamics of our family would change and my relationships with my siblings would be very different. My family has two girls and one boy so the boys would have dominance instead of the girls and I think I would be a lot closer with my older brother and less with my sister I also think I would have more work to do and I feel more responsible foe certain thing anyway not to much that really made me think this week lol (that sounds bad) but this I thought was interesting
Rachel
This week in class my teacher asked us kind of an interesting question "how would your house be different and your relationships with family members if you were the opposite gender?" at first I was like oh whatever but then when I thought about it, it really can make a big difference I don't think my relationship with my parents would change that much but I think the dynamics of our family would change and my relationships with my siblings would be very different. My family has two girls and one boy so the boys would have dominance instead of the girls and I think I would be a lot closer with my older brother and less with my sister I also think I would have more work to do and I feel more responsible foe certain thing anyway not to much that really made me think this week lol (that sounds bad) but this I thought was interesting
Rachel
Tuesday, October 15, 2013
Culture
So in class this week we have been talking about culture and diversity in families and a topic that really stuck out to me was the immigration
Living in Southern California and being half Mexican this topic kind of was personal to me. Where I live I see a lot of illegal immigrants and it has always kind of bothered me at the same time I could not help but feel for them. My thought on immigration use to be that yeah it was fine but as long as they went about it the right way and not illegally because my grandparents came to the U.S when my dad was just an infant but they did it legally and I thought that if my family could do it why is it so hard for everyone else.
But then we had to read this article for class about families that immigrated to the U.S and were living in either north or south Carolina I cant remember which one anyway it had interviews with both the parents and children on how hard but vital for them to come to the U.S and how they were separated for years before they could all be together again and I just thought I do not know if I could go through that and I really can not even imagine how difficult it is for parents to be away from their children or spouses to be separated and then having to cross the boarder not knowing if everyone is going to make it must bring great anxiety and hardships on the families
Another part that really stood out to me was when the interviewers interviewed the children and parents separate and asked them different questions. I cant really relate with the moms and dads because I have never been a parent but I could relate with the children because I have obviously been one. the part that got me thinking was the teenagers that had to come and adapt to the new culture while trying to fit in and then having all those emotions and hormones thrown in the mix probably makes it very difficult because you want to still be with your family and close to your culture but want to fit in and just belong with your peers as well. in the interview one girl said how hard it was because her mom was getting mad with her because she was becoming "Americanized" and being disrespectful to her parents but isn't that what the want there kids to become like Americans and fit in I felt like after seeing that I could relate more and kind of felt bad for the immigrants my age that I know because I never took into consideration all the emotional and family dynamic changes they had to go through.
I always thought that immigrants just hoped the boarder with no problem and just settled in fine and went about their day. but it can be such a hard and long process
while I still have mixed feelings on illegal immigration I have a better understanding of all that goes into it and how hard it can really be.
Living in Southern California and being half Mexican this topic kind of was personal to me. Where I live I see a lot of illegal immigrants and it has always kind of bothered me at the same time I could not help but feel for them. My thought on immigration use to be that yeah it was fine but as long as they went about it the right way and not illegally because my grandparents came to the U.S when my dad was just an infant but they did it legally and I thought that if my family could do it why is it so hard for everyone else.
But then we had to read this article for class about families that immigrated to the U.S and were living in either north or south Carolina I cant remember which one anyway it had interviews with both the parents and children on how hard but vital for them to come to the U.S and how they were separated for years before they could all be together again and I just thought I do not know if I could go through that and I really can not even imagine how difficult it is for parents to be away from their children or spouses to be separated and then having to cross the boarder not knowing if everyone is going to make it must bring great anxiety and hardships on the families
Another part that really stood out to me was when the interviewers interviewed the children and parents separate and asked them different questions. I cant really relate with the moms and dads because I have never been a parent but I could relate with the children because I have obviously been one. the part that got me thinking was the teenagers that had to come and adapt to the new culture while trying to fit in and then having all those emotions and hormones thrown in the mix probably makes it very difficult because you want to still be with your family and close to your culture but want to fit in and just belong with your peers as well. in the interview one girl said how hard it was because her mom was getting mad with her because she was becoming "Americanized" and being disrespectful to her parents but isn't that what the want there kids to become like Americans and fit in I felt like after seeing that I could relate more and kind of felt bad for the immigrants my age that I know because I never took into consideration all the emotional and family dynamic changes they had to go through.
I always thought that immigrants just hoped the boarder with no problem and just settled in fine and went about their day. but it can be such a hard and long process
while I still have mixed feelings on illegal immigration I have a better understanding of all that goes into it and how hard it can really be.
Saturday, October 5, 2013
Family Dynamic's
This week in class we talked about family dynamics and I never really noticed family dynamics in my own family until we started discussing theories
The systems theory I think is very relatable to most families when they hear it, at least that was my case anyways.
From what I understood the systems theory says that everyone in the family has a role whether it be the golden child, the trouble maker, the clown, or any others I know in my family after hearing the systems theory I discovered all our roles
I think in my family I am the easy child, while my siblings might disagree. I never really got in a lot of trouble in school, I always followed the rules an participated in church and family activities and kind of just went through the motions I was supposed to
I don't think I will say my other family members role publically because they wont appreciate that lol
But I think that the systems theory relates best to me and my family and I found it interesting that as we learned about it I could relate it to my experiences and family. also when we were asked to discuss the other theories along with this one to other classmates the majority of them said they felt like they could relate to the systems theory as well
so I believe that in every family everyone has a role and I can now see that clearly in my family thanks to the systems theory
Rachel Escobar
The systems theory I think is very relatable to most families when they hear it, at least that was my case anyways.
From what I understood the systems theory says that everyone in the family has a role whether it be the golden child, the trouble maker, the clown, or any others I know in my family after hearing the systems theory I discovered all our roles
I think in my family I am the easy child, while my siblings might disagree. I never really got in a lot of trouble in school, I always followed the rules an participated in church and family activities and kind of just went through the motions I was supposed to
I don't think I will say my other family members role publically because they wont appreciate that lol
But I think that the systems theory relates best to me and my family and I found it interesting that as we learned about it I could relate it to my experiences and family. also when we were asked to discuss the other theories along with this one to other classmates the majority of them said they felt like they could relate to the systems theory as well
so I believe that in every family everyone has a role and I can now see that clearly in my family thanks to the systems theory
Rachel Escobar
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